| Location | Normanton (originally Leeds) |
| Age | 22 years |
| Cause of Death | Motorbike Accident |
| Date of Birth | 30/05/1984 |
| Date of Death | 30/10/2006 |
| Visitors | 6,483 since 14/09/2007 |
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Christopher Nicholas Hayes.... R Chris ...
Passed and went to the heavens, 30th October 2006, at around 6:50pm...
A young, charming lad of 22 years old...
Worked hard for Pipex in Leeds....
Lived in Normanton with Mum, Dad and Sister, Jenna... Originally from Beeston in Leeds....
The best Son that could ever have been given to Annmarie Hayes and Tony Hayes, much loved little
brother to Donna Hayes, and big brother to Jenna Hayes, best Uncle possible to Bethany Anne, Aimee
Lin, and now Grace Christenne and Alisha Inaaya, Grandson, Great Grandson, Nephew, Cousin, and very
good friend to very very many....
Chris was riding his blue Honda Hornet 600 motorbike, the bike he saved for and the bike he loved
with all his heart, towards home from work when he was involved in an accident with a Toyota Yaris,
travelling in the opposite direction along Birkwood Road in Stanley. Chris was pronounced dead at
the scene from head and abdominal injuries. No reason was given, after 6 months of endless attempts
to find reason for Chris accident, they say it was just a freak accident.
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No one could ever say a bad word about my brother, he was such a nice person. He loved his bikes,
his computers and going out with friends. Both me and my sister were heavily pregnant at the time of
the accident. He had a soft side to him which he only showed to those that really meant a lot to
him, be it him laying his hand on your shoulder, or shaking your hand. In the last weeks before his
passing, i became very close to my brother, he was my best friend and meant the world to me. We used
to sit in the garage in the early hours smoking away, drinking endless cups of tea, and discussing
almost everything that came to mind. We laughed and joked. He was my protector, very protective over
me. He was very excited to meeting his nieces Grace and Alisha and asked me many questions about
pregnancy and how she would look at each stage, asking what it felt like (hehe, trying to explain
wasnt easy...), saying what he thought she would look like! He took the mick out of the name i had
chosen, which would have been Ameera, after watching postman pat together one day, but the story is
too long to tell. He thought the name Ameera was hilarious though after that day.
Chris is missed so much.... some just cant accept he has gone (like myself). He was a good good
person and shouldnt have been taken from us.... hes an angel above now, and we know he is looking
down on us...
We miss you Chris... Love u so so much always... Rest in Peace Darling...
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Jenna Hayes (Chris sister)
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Hi Chris
hope you are ok in your special place. Just wanted to let you know (I know you really actually know it all already but not sure that your mum does), that your mum is a lovely lovely lady and a true friend to me. It is such a shame we couldn't get our diaries sorted to meet up in London before Christmas, it would have been so lovely to see both her and your dad again. But we are definetely going up to see them in the New Year, which isn't really that far away.
Your mum is one in a million with the support she has shown me recently so I just wanted to let you and her know that, and also that I will always be there for her as well.
Stay close to your family
with love
J XXX
Light A Candle
light a candle,
see it glow,
watch it dance,
when you feel low,
think of me,
think of light,
I'll always be here,
day or night,
a candle flickers,
out of sight,
but in your heart,
I still burn bright,
think not of sadness,
that I'm not near,
think of gladness,
and joyous cheer,
I have not left,
I am not gone,
I'm here to stay
so when you light a candle
and you see it glow
and you watch it dance
in your heart you'll know
that I would never leave you
even when you feel so blue
I'm sitting up here with the Lord
and now watching over you
Dear Chris and family,
below is a poem that I saw on Shirleys son Matthews page and thought how lovely it was. I got in touch with Angela (Marie Angela Rowe, Christopher Rowes mum) and asked her about it and she sent me the full version, which is below.
It is such a lovely poem.
Ann, thank you for your kind words, I will always be there for you all.
With love
J XxX
Letter From Heaven
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness;
here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said,
"I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again;
you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human,
they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers,
unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you
and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street,
and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Reply to "Letter from Heaven"
My Dearest Loved one:
I received your Letter from Heaven,
It made the teardrops fall.
But knowing you’re with God above,
Sweet memories, I will recall.
I know that you are with me,
For I feel your presence near.
And if I listen closely,
Your voice I then can hear.
I know you’re watching o’er me,
As you promised you would do.
And when I feel so saddened,
It’s your letter that sees me through.
When I lay in bed at night,
The day’s chores put to flight,
I truly feel your presence,
Like a warm and glowing light.
The rocky roads you mentioned,
And the hills that I must climb;
I’ve done exactly what you said,
By taking one day at a time.
I’ve tried to help others,
Who are in sorrow and in pain.
And now I am contented,
My day was not in vain.
I’ll lend a hand, as you have said
When someone is feeling low.
I’ll pray for them and be here,
‘Till on their way they go.
And when it’s time for me to go,
To join you in heaven high.
My wings I shall spread wide,
To my home up in the sky.
THANK YOU
I am writing this message, to thank every one who lit a candle and wrote a message on Christopher's Gts site for his third anniversary this week. you are all so very kind, thank you Jenny for your lovely message life is so hard isn't it. you do have to put a brave face on constantly so has not to upset every one all the time. I don't come on here much now but when i do i am amazed at how many of you still think of chris and my family. I would also like to thank you Janie for being such a good family friend to me, my husband and my girls over these last few years and for being so supportive with your kind message's and emails. I send my love to all my Gts freinds and Hope that one day we can all be Happy again .......
Love Annmarie xx
Your all im my thoughts
Hi Annmarie
I hope you dont mind but ive just read your messages to your Chris and it was like reading my own to Dal we all think we are alone in grief but every mum & dad who as lost a son or daughter must feel like us Annmarie surely they do.....Im please you have a husband to share all this with im on my own and i just wish i had a partner to help me its hard on your own coming home to an empty house and memories are hard but as you say we wear a mask.....Well im sorry for going on Annmarie i just wanted to let you know i feel your emptiness,your loss & your pain and Annmarie its been nearly six years since i lost Dal and time doesnt heal in fact i think it gets worst...
All my love & thoughts to you & your family x x x x x Love Jenny x x x x
Our special Son
To our unique, Handsome, Special Son,
Three years have now passed since you have been gone
The Pain of losing you still as raw as on that crushing day,
The Day the Angels came and took you away.
But Special Memories of you still very much remain
These Memories make us smile even though we know it will never be the same again.
We will always miss you son and tears of love we will forever cry
You're our special Angel Chris, Spread your wings and be free to Fly.
Written By Jenna Hayes for the Yorkshire Evening Post 30th Oct 2009 In memory of Chris......
My Son Christopher
Christopher Nicholas Hayes - 30th may 1984 to 30th Oct 2006
My son , My friend , My rock and a truly unique individual
Rarely could someone so young be described in this way , but its true , Christopher was and still is a true inspiration to me and always will be . In his short twenty two and a half years he lived life to the full , slept a lot - lol - but lived a lot , but as anyone who knew Christopher would know , not in the fast lane , not even in the middle lane , no i think we should have named him Eddy - "Steady Eddy" , Christopher crawled along through life at his own pace but almost always completed what he set out to accomplish .
If you had to sum up Christopher in a few words then reliable , dependable , loving , caring and unique would pop up. Christopher' order in life was family , friends , colleagues and then anyone or anything that followed . Rarely would Christopher have a bad word for anyone , that's just how he was , "unique"
When ever life seemed to be falling apart Christopher would sigh , throw his arms in the air and say those immortal words - " hey dude don't sweat the small stuff " how annoying ! but if I've learn't anything over the last 3 years then its how true these word are.
3 years is along time to be in denial , its a long time to panic every time that factory phone rings , its along time to pretend everything is going to be ok , 3 years is along time to be strong for everyone around you . Life has changed , I have changed , everything has changed , things can never be the same again , but there comes a point where you have to accept change , hold onto those precious memories and make them immortal .
It is not time to say goodbye to Christopher , but just to say " see you later mate " Christopher has not gone , he is just in a different place to us right now and I'm sure we will meet up again . Where ever he is , what ever he is doing I hope he will save me a front row seat because I always seem to be on the back row down here - hehe
Anyway as I read somewhere recently - " Life is not about how long you are here - Its about what you do while you are here " Christopher certainly made his mark and will be in many peoples thoughts for many years to come .
Forever in my thoughts , see you later son , love you forever ,
Good night , god bless Dad xxxxxx
Missing you more every day son.... Part 1
To my dear sweet son, Christopher.
Well darling son, it has been 3 years today since you left us. I know I say it over and over again but to us it still seems like yesterday. I know you are watching over us, if I didn't believe this I couldn't carry on.
Dad and me have had quite a year as you will know. As they say, losing someone so special can either make you or break you as a couple. To be honest, it has nearly broken me a few times but something keeps pushing me along this path of life. We have had some trying times, sometimes I just don't know what I want in life anymore, but we seem to have hopefully pushed our way through it. My head has been so mixed up, not knowing which way to turn. Your dad has suffered so much, but as you know he has stuck by me no matter what.
I have been an emotional wreck. One day I get up and think 'I can do this, I can be happy today' then another day I just don't want to get up and I could just give up. The amount of times I look and think I could just drive into that wall or over that edge but then I think how unfair that is on everyone else and how selfish it is to even think it. I know how I feel about losing you, what would it be like for them to lose someone else. I don't want to have these thoughts, I feel so selfish, but how do I stop them. I miss you so much.
As you can see, your nieces are growing up quick. They are all such different characters and all little mischiefs, but so adorable all the same! Donna and Raeburn are back together, hopefully life will be better for them this time. Jenna is now working, she's doing care work. I don't know how she does it, who would have thought she would end up doing something like this and coming out so good in the end! We are really proud of her. I am still not working but I look after Alisha while Jenna is at work. I'm not sure what the future holds for me at the moment. Dad's still in his everyday job, still waiting for his redundancy! He will be waiting forever for that though, they'll never get rid of him lol! Little gran has finally decided to go and get her hip done thank god! I think it had something to do with me saying I wouldn't be pushing her around in a wheel chair just because she wouldn't have an operation! Grandma Hayes is doing well but still misses
you terribly.
Part 2
Have you been keeping your eye on all the goings on in the world? Have you met Michael Jackson yet?! He was a legend to you. I remember when we took you to see Moonwalker when you were 4, you danced in the aisles! I think you had every album he made. I listen to them sometimes and think of you. Did you meet up with Uncle Arthur in February? He passed away quite suddenly after all his suffering all these years. Do you remember how you used to go and sit with him in that room and talk about all sorts? When you lost your life he was gutted and told us you were such a good lad. Alex still keeps in touch with us, I bet you are keeping an eye on him and Sara. I lost contact with Dave Lambert, I lost my phone with all my contacts in. I am hoping he will realise one day and get in touch again.
What did you think to your 25th birthday party? Everybody thought it was a wonderful thing to do. I hope you caught all those balloons and read all those messages, and I hope you come and sit on your bench occasionally with us.
Christmas is coming around again, I find it hard coping with it. It has never felt the same since you left us. To be quite honest nothing feels the same any more. Nothing really makes us happy, we try for the sake of everyone else but nobody can truly understand how we feel unless they've lost a child themselves. My dream would be to have you there on Christmas day but that can never happen. It would be nice to be able to have a massive get-together on Christmas day with all our family and friends, it would be nice to have a video of you to watch so we felt like you were kind of there.
Me and dad went away at the beginning of this month for a week. We visited all the places in Clearwater that held all our special memories of being there with you.
Chris, I don't think I need to tell you how much we miss you. You probably already know and you probably feel our pain every day, I hope you don't and I am truly sorry if you do. Everyone said time is a healer, 3 years on there is no healing for us. We just control our emotions better. Me and dad only show each other our emotions now, we try not to burden anyone else.
Well, this is all for now Chris, I don't want to bore you too much! So until next time I write, I love you and miss you so much son and I will do until the day you come down for me.
Goodbye darling
Mum xxxxxxxx
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